thebutchdaddy

Self grounding with kink.

CW:mental illness. If you want to see the rest of the photos from this shoot, click here I have a severe anxiety disorder, depression, PTSD and OCD. Many people in my life know this about me, but this might be news to you, reader. See those who only know me on social media really onlyContinue reading “Self grounding with kink.”

Detransitioning

Detransition I fucking hate that term. The prefix of ‘de’ implies that you’re moving backwards; regression to ‘return to a former or less developed state.’ To imply that my existence, body, soul & sprit have gone to a less developed state at any point would really challenge the idea of self growth. Growth is movingContinue reading “Detransitioning”

Connection during COVID-19

During the time of Covid-19, many of us find ourselves separated from partners and loved ones, with no firm idea as to when we’ll see each other again. For folks whose love languages involve physical touch, or acts of service, this can be particularly more difficult. Kitten and I have decided to share ways thatContinue reading “Connection during COVID-19”

Daddy's Hunting Trip

Written by Princess It was a long car ride out into the forest. The sun was starting to fall behind the trees ahead, making their shadows stretch for miles along the mountain highway. Daddy was driving, one hand on the wheel and the other holding a lit cigarette. She wore a pair of waxedContinue reading “Daddy's Hunting Trip”

Daddy Deserves to Cum: Receiving Pleasure as a Dom

Princess is cuddled into the space between my arm and chest with her head resting on my shoulder. I’ve just finished forcing orgasms out of her, one after the other in a relentless cadence that has left her pink and breathless. Her face is shining with sweat, a little smile on her round lips. We’veContinue reading “Daddy Deserves to Cum: Receiving Pleasure as a Dom”

Going Public: Taking Kink from the Bedroom to the Dungeon

I’m in a dark hotel ballroom that has been converted into a temporary kink dungeon. Red and blue shadows stretch across the dimly lit space, the bass of hard techno music rattles the chandeliers. I’m doubled over a spanking bench, my cuffed hands resting behind me on my lower back. My head has been pushedContinue reading “Going Public: Taking Kink from the Bedroom to the Dungeon”

Thinking About Top Drop

The scene has come to a close. Princess is prostrate on the bed, her eyes glazed over and a smile lingering on her lips. I hang up my implements and come to lie on my side next to her. She rolls over into fetal position, tucked in the space between my knees and chest. IContinue reading “Thinking About Top Drop”

Dom Space: An Exploration of Power

I have the handle of a paddle resting in my palm, firm and unyielding to my grasp. Beneath me, bent over the side of the bed, is Princess. Her head is pushed to the side with one flushed cheek facing up towards me, the other pressed into the mattress. She has her arms clasped behindContinue reading “Dom Space: An Exploration of Power”

Sub Aftercare: Identifying Post-Play Needs

Sometimes I want to be beaten. I want to let my breath go ragged as I lay prostrate before Daddy, feeling the floor shudder under her boots as she circles me. I want to float in a liminal space of fear and anticipation, ears pricked for the sound of leather cracking through the air beforeContinue reading “Sub Aftercare: Identifying Post-Play Needs”

Call Me Butch Daddy

Welcome doms, subs, brats, daddies, mommies, tops, bottoms, and kinky queers of all flavors. This post is meant to build some context for you around my experiences with queer kink and the reasons why I started the Butch Daddy blog. Queer Kink From Day One Kink began for me in tandem with my sexual origins.Continue reading “Call Me Butch Daddy”